Again the world is years behind the church
I was on Yahoo news today when I stumbled accross this article which I thought was interesting as the title says that researchers have found what exactly it takes to keep a marriage alive. For those of you that know me probably know that I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. One of the things that the church is known for is having strong families which is why I was interested by this article. It lists things that families should do to stay closer together. I thought it was interesting how all of the things that they mentioned were told to us by the Prophets years ago and now science is just catching up. I will give you some examples.
The article says “one-fifth of couples who have kids before marriage — either from a previous relationship or in the same relationship — having separated compared to just nine percent of couples without children born before marriage.” Another thing that the LDS church is known for is the no sex before marriage. I think that is a pretty good way to make sure that you don’t have kids before you are married. I understand that there are cases of abuse and death of a spouse that are different but for people getting married the first time, that is quite a big drop.
The article also says “And couples where one partner, and not the other, smokes are also more likely to have a relationship that ends in failure.” Now this did suprise me and I still haven’t figured out why this is happens. On February 27th, 1833 Joseph Smith, the first prophet of this era recieved the revelation that is now know as the Word of Wisdom. This teaches that you shouldn’t, smoke or drink alcohol, as well as advising people to eat well. It wasn’t until years later that science found out that those things are bad for you. Now it turns out that if one person smokes it will damage the relationship. I know that this doesn’t address the fact that it doesn’t say anything about both people smoking but there are multiple other reasons I could site why you shouldn’t smoke all together.
Now I fully understand that there are instances when divorce is the only option, such as any type of abuse. I am also not advocating that if you follow the teachings of the Prophets that all marriages are perfect and great but I do know that if Husbands spend time with their families and put them above anything else then you have a much greater chance to have a successful marriage. I have found that to many husbands think that if they make more money then their families will be happier. I fully believe that if you make enough to survive and spend the rest of the time with your family then you and your family will be much happier. I can say from experience that coming home and seeing my wife and daughter is the greatest experience that I could ever have and I will constantly strive to keep them in the front of my life. I realize this article doesn’t encompass everything it takes to have a strong family. What do you guys think make a particularly strong family or what has helped you in your family?
I certainly hope that I didn’t offend anyone but in things like this it is almost impossible not to. I want my friends and family to know that just because I don’t think someone should smoke or drink doesn’t mean I think less of you if you do. Its a choice that I just happen to not make. If you are interested in hearing more about the LDS church there are a few links scattered throughout this blog that will take you to sites where you can learn more or you can contact me on facebook, by phone or by email. If you just stumble across this blog and don’t know me leave a comment and I will point you in the right direction. I hope you guys have a great summer.
